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Happy Birthday, Graham! A Birth Day Poem From Your Birth Father
One Year Ago One year ago the world became a better place. Our life’s became darker one year ago. Our sacrifice brought so much joy. Our loss made a family. Feelings of pride and sorrow intertwine. My burden to bare, and I would not change it. My wife lost a son. My son lost a…
Read MoreA Letter to My Adversaries in the Adoption Community
A Letter to my Adversaries in the Adoption Community Dear Adversaries, Sadly, traumatic events in life happen. Just being alive means we are going to come in contact with good and evil. Events like birth, death, marriage, divorce, and even adoption occur. I personally experienced trauma in most of those categories. When things go…
Read MoreMy Amazing Weeklong Visit with ALL of the Children that I Placed for Adoption
I had not seen 3 of my kids in about 10 years. The oldest currently lives with me. I received updates through their adoptive mom, Sandra and pictures throughout the years. I watched them grow from a distance, yearning for more connection. I wanted to know how much they knew of me, what did they…
Read MoreHow My Open Adoption Relationship Developed Over Time
I have been a birth mom for a little over five years. I have two birth sons placed with the same family who are 5 and 3 years old. From the beginning, our adoption was extremely open. I had visits very often, at least once a month and every holiday. Sometimes, we would even spontaneously…
Read More“REAL STRENGTH”
“REAL STRENGTH” -a poem about adoption written by a loving birth father, the night his son was born. Today, once again you amazed me. I watched you give birth to our son, to their son, to a family. How strong you must be to deal with all the pain of labor. And at the end…
Read More“THE EASY WAY”
“THE EASY WAY” A Poem about adoption from a birth father. Someone naively said once ” adoption is the easy way”. I beg to differ. When presented with a choice of this magnitude, how would you respond ? I have seen too many times people choose the self-serving and selfish road. Never with any real…
Read MoreWhy “Back to School” Can Be Hard For Women Who Have Placed a Child for Adoption
Why “Back to School” Can Be Hard For Women Who Have Placed a Child for Adoption. New Clothes, New Books and New Beginnings… (Inside the Life of Anna, birth mom of a 15 month old son and Lindsey, birth mom of 8 year old twin girls.) Excitement was in the air as the…
Read MoreBirth Mother’s Day: Then & Now
Birth Mother’s Day: Then & Now by Leah Outten Some birth moms love having a day to celebrate and honor their decision of adoption placement while some hate having a separate day. Wherever you stand on the matter you can choose to acknowledge and celebrate it– or not. I personally love it and…
Read MoreDo the Necessary Research for Your Adoption Plan
Many times when we are faced with a problem that feels too big to solve, we avoid it. We keep our heads low and stay in the dark as long as possible. This is true for many women who find out that they are pregnant and are faced with the reality that their lifestyle or situation is not conducive to that of healthy child raising.
Read MoreA New Year and New Promises for Birth Moms Today
A do-over is on the way…
You are not alone if you are feeling the frustration of another year gone accompanied with the relief that a new one is approaching.
Post adoption life can be a roller coaster of a ride leaving you wondering if you will ever feel stable again. It is not uncommon to look at the time gone by and think that maybe you should be in a different place in your life right now.