Mothers Day is on the way….. Did you know that Birth Mothers Day is the Saturday before Mothers Day?
One of the most supportive things you can do for a birth mom this Mothers Day is to be willing to acknowledge her as a mother.
Remember this first and foremost what a mother is. Merriam Webster says….
“A mother is a female who “brings up (a child) with care and affection”.
Choosing a way for your child’s needs to be met on a daily basis is one way of bringing up a child with ‘care and affection”. Staying involved if able and sharing the child’s history in love and discernment is another way to bring up a child with care and affection. Putting yourself and your needs aside to allow for the betterment of your child’s future is bringing up a child with care and affection.
If you’ve placed a child for adoption and someone asks ” Will all the mothers please stand?” or “Do you have a child/children?” you can learn to feel comfortable with responses like:
“Yes, I do and though I was not able to raise my child when they were born or though they are not in my life today, I am still bringing them up with care and affection through the plans I made for their future. I made a loving adoption plan for their life and I look forward to our future together as they grow up in love and understanding”.
If you know someone who has placed a child for adoption you can be a heart with ears for them this Mother’s Day weekend. Ask them how they are doing and if they choose to share with you even if you don’t know what to say you can still be a good listener.