Tis the Season For Holiday Triggers – The Adoption Christmas Story
During some seasons in a birth parent’s life, holiday joy comes with holiday drama and trauma. I remember. One minute I would be caught up in singing holiday carols and being merry and bright and the next I was lost in thoughts about the life I thought I was supposed to live and wonder what my…
Read MoreThe Choice by Thomas Castleberry
The Choice Our lives irrevocably changed 4 years ago. Not just ours, but theirs also. A choice made out of pure love resulted in a new family. Sadly along with the happiness came sorrow and grief. For every example of their love is an equal example of loss. We have it more fortunate than some…
Read MoreAdoption Stigmas, Prejudices and Hope for REFORM.
Several weeks ago I saw a post from a forum that was educating its members on open adoption. I’ve read a lot of painful stuff on the internet over the years but this one hit hard. THIS one overwhelmed me with the horrific reminder that there is still so much work to be done in…
Read MoreBack To School Photos
It’s time for the kids to go back to school. Everyone is seeing lots and lots of photos on their social media. Including birth mothers. A birth mother is continually faced with daily reminders of the child she placed and the milestones that are taking place. Back to School is yet another one…
Read MoreDear Adoptive Parents Who Made Certain Commitments to Their Child’s Birth Mother,
Dear Adoptive Parents Who Made Certain Commitments to Their Child’s Birth Mother, I am writing to you today with urgency. This urgency beckons you to be willing to hear my words with vulnerability and awareness. My heart is heavy today for a particular woman who placed her child for adoption. She represents EVERY…
Read MoreThe Letter, Fate and a New Beginning – Final Chapter 10
The Letter, Fate and a New Beginning – Final Chapter 10 After I placed my son for adoption, I asked my social worker if I could write him a letter so that when he was older he would know I loved him dearly and placed him out of love. We didn’t have printers in our…
Read MoreC-Sections, Hospital Stays, and a 2 year old Little Angel – Chapter 9
C-Sections, Hospital Stays, and a 2 Year Old Little Angel I was 9 months pregnant and ready to have my child in just a few more weeks. I cried every day upon waking and again my tears would put me to sleep at night. As my stomach grew bigger and bigger, so did the…
Read MoreFood Shopping, Sweet 16 and C-Sections – Chapter 8
Adjusting to the Convent: Food Shopping, Sweet 16 and C-Section. Chapter 8 The days were exceedingly long. Week after week, I would sit before the social worker with a confident smirk insisting that I would be able to find a good job and an apartment to raise my child in as a single mom.…
Read MoreBehind the Scenes- The Breakdown, More Hideaways, and Loneliness – Chapter 7
Behind the Scenes- The Breakdown, More Hideaways, and Loneliness I hopped off the short bus ready to race inside my house before anyone could see me or my fat pregnant belly. I had gotten really good at the race inside the house after school each day. I had it down to mere seconds despite…
Read MoreRobberies, Jail and Cancellations – Chapter 6
Robberies, Jail, and Cancellations I can still hear the revving of the moped engine that popped down Ocean Avenue on that night, in early February. I was 5 months pregnant, my wedding was in about a week and life seemed to have settled into a routine. I had been waiting for hours.…
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