Why the Way You Show Up as a Birth Mom Really Matters
Why the Way You Show Up as a Birth Mom Really Matters As a woman who has placed a child for adoption, you may not be thinking that your emotional wellbeing can also have an impact on the child you placed. Your Emotional Wellbeing HOW you show up emotionally in your relationship with your child…
Read MoreBringing Adoption out of the Dark Ages and into the Light of the 21rst Century
Bringing Adoption out of the Dark Ages and into the Light of The 21rst Century. It wouldn’t take you very long if you immersed yourself in the adoption community before you picked up on the complexities involved. If you dared to dig further, you might find yourself wishing you hadn’t. While adoption is beautiful.…
Read MoreDear Expectant Mom who is considering adoption for your child’s future,
Dear Expectant Mom who is considering adoption, I write to you today with a very important message. It’s crucial to remember you have OPTIONS. Take time to look into all the possibilities before you. Step away from everyone’s options and check in with yourself. You are the one that has to live with…
Read MoreTis the Season For Holiday Triggers – The Adoption Christmas Story
During some seasons in a birth parent’s life, holiday joy comes with holiday drama and trauma. I remember. One minute I would be caught up in singing holiday carols and being merry and bright and the next I was lost in thoughts about the life I thought I was supposed to live and wonder what my…
Read MoreThe Choice by Thomas Castleberry
The Choice Our lives irrevocably changed 4 years ago. Not just ours, but theirs also. A choice made out of pure love resulted in a new family. Sadly along with the happiness came sorrow and grief. For every example of their love is an equal example of loss. We have it more fortunate than some…
Read MoreBirth Mothers Day Letter
Dear Birth Mom, I am thinking of you especially today on Birth Mother’s Day and sending BIG waves of love and extra kindness your way. The media and social acknowledgment and focus on mothers may leave you questioning your role this weekend. I am here with a reminder and perhaps a new perspective. A loving mother makes…
Read MoreAdoption Stigmas, Prejudices and Hope for REFORM.
Several weeks ago I saw a post from a forum that was educating its members on open adoption. I’ve read a lot of painful stuff on the internet over the years but this one hit hard. THIS one overwhelmed me with the horrific reminder that there is still so much work to be done in…
Read MoreBack To School Photos
It’s time for the kids to go back to school. Everyone is seeing lots and lots of photos on their social media. Including birth mothers. A birth mother is continually faced with daily reminders of the child she placed and the milestones that are taking place. Back to School is yet another one…
Read MoreDear Adoptive Parents Who Made Certain Commitments to Their Child’s Birth Mother,
Dear Adoptive Parents Who Made Certain Commitments to Their Child’s Birth Mother, I am writing to you today with urgency. This urgency beckons you to be willing to hear my words with vulnerability and awareness. My heart is heavy today for a particular woman who placed her child for adoption. She represents EVERY…
Read MoreBirth Fathers and Father’s Day
Father’s Day I think just as Mothers Day can be a difficult day to deal with for birth mothers, Fathers Day can be a difficult day for birth fathers too. Most men are pretty good at hiding their emotions, thoughts, and feelings around things that didn’t work out quite as planned. Parenting is…
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