Dear Mom,

Dear Mom, We have never met. I don’t know your name, hair color, where you live, your profession, your favorite food, if you drink coffee, and if you do if you like creamer in your coffee. I do; however, know one thing about you. I know you love me very much. You not only loved…

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To my Son’s Adoptive Mom on Birth Mothers Day,

To my Son’s Adoptive Mom on Birth Mothers Day, Our relationship began on paper and I find myself 30 years later using the same means of communication. A LETTER. It all started with anonymous LETTERS between us. Yours was a bio that told me all about you and your spouse and the kind of lifestyle…

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Feeling the Mother’s Day Blues?

“Will all the mothers please stand up? Do you have any children?” Mothers Day is almost here and for many women it comes with some unwanted questions and an array of mixed feelings.   Women who are unable to bear children or who have had children who are no longer living may feel loss and…

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Letter To My Child’s Adoptive Mother,

To My Child’s Adoptive Mother, I write to you now because I have lived each day with this complexity and need to open up to you about it. You and I share this unique relationship with each other that began with the life of the child whom we both love so dearly. We both identify…

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A Letter to My Adversaries in the Adoption Community

A Letter to my Adversaries in the Adoption Community Dear Adversaries,   Is adoption traumatic to every birth mother or is the relationship we have with the people involved traumatic?   Traumatic events in life happen. Part of being alive means we are going to come in contact with good and evil. Events like birth, death,…

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How My Open Adoption Relationship Developed Over Time

I have been a birth mom for a little over five years. I have two birth sons placed with the same family who are 5 and 3 years old. From the beginning, our adoption was extremely open. I had visits very often, at least once a month and every holiday. Sometimes, we would even spontaneously…

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Our Adoption Journey

Our Journey I am a birth father, this is the story of my wife’s and my adoption journey. We had been together 17 years. We had a 12 year old son. Then while at the E.R. my wife learned she was pregnant. That is when our world was turned upside down. We knew we did…

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