Humility, School, and Phil Donahue.        Eventually, Berner High School decided it was in everyone’s best interest if I disappeared for a while.   I was enrolled in a BOCES type school where they had classes for pregnant women and some even brought their baby with them to school so they could still…

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Regardless of the number of years that pass some memories linger crystal clear. Pooh Bear, Paint, and Promises. I was 15 years old and in the dining room of our home in Massapequa, NY when I got the news. The dining room walls were lined with mirrors.  I can still see my reflection in them…

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I guess if there was an actual beginning to my adoption story this would have been it. Rock Concerts, Bikinis, and Teen Spirit. I was 15 and I wore black and white zebra-striped spandex pants and a black leather shirt. Dio was at Nassau Coliseum on Long Island NY and I was excited. It was…

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Father’s Day   I think just as Mothers Day can be a difficult day to deal with for birth mothers, Fathers Day can be a difficult day for birth fathers too.    Most men are pretty good at hiding their emotions, thoughts, and feelings around things that didn’t work out quite as planned. Parenting is…

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It’s my Birthday!    Another year has passed and with it comes the realization that my birthday is also my children’s birthday and my mother’s birthday and hers before her and yadda yadda yadda. We are all here because of each other. Life is an amazing thing.  As you reflect on your own life and…

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Question and Reminder- How are you choosing to live TODAY? What kind of head talk permeates your thinking each day? Yesterday we can look back to in love and learn from and tomorrow isn’t yet within our grasp. But Today is in our control. Today we have choices. Big and little choices will always be…

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Healing—-Part of healing comes in how we see certain experiences. We can see our own experiences in a variety of ways. For example – Maybe you were coerced into placing your child for adoption or child protective services took your child or children out of your care. Your frame of reference or the way you…

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It wouldn’t be accurate if we didn’t shed awareness on the topic of abuse especially in the adoption community. Abuse is no stranger to the adoption community. Recent news articles could be shared that all tell horrific stories of children being abused by foster and adoptive families. Many members of the adoption triad have suffered…

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Help is available for you Emotionally.   A huge part of the adoption process is an emotional part.    There are so many emotions present each and every day. Emotions from how you feel about being pregnant to how the pregnancy makes you feel physically and emotionally.   Hormones are trying to take center stage…

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